Invest in yourself
What happens when you take time to invest in yourself? How can you invest in others when you have not taken time for yourself?
Take the time to do things for you because there will always be something going on in life but at any moment you can lose everything you have invested in. At the end of the day for as long as you're alive you will always have you. For when you lose the people or things you care about you won't completely spiral if you have taken the time for you. Take the time to learn how to be your own best friend first. No this is not selfish, this is self love. Learning to find love within yourself is not selfish.
I grew up with a mother who did not have self love but she did love everyone and everything around her. She invested so much of herself in others that when she lost everything and everyone she went in the dark. If she would have found love within herself she would not rely on the love of others to hold her up.
I spent everyday of my life until the last three years giving her all my light, all my love and everything I had to try and keep her going. My love was never enough because the key factor was her finding love within herself. Your love within yourself is what fires your light for eternity. I had to step back and love her from afar so I could try to find love within myself.
In fact this should be a priority to do things for yourself. How can you be there for others if you can't be there for yourself? Everyday you are stronger even if on somedays you don't feel it. I have spent a lot of alone time since my last heartache and that has helped me set my foundation. I'm not searching for a boyfriend, a soul mate, my forever human. Instead I'm learning what my needs are and setting the bar high for when I do meet someone they won't be someone I have to "fix". I know now more what I want in a man. Not "Need" because I do not need a man to survive. You should never have to rely on someone for your own survival.
I was once in a codependent toxic relationship. We relied on each other so much we had to be together every day. When I finally left that person I realized I had invested so much time in that person I no longer knew who Kayla was. You should never be in a relationship where you two lose your identity. If you take the time to invest in yourself and be with someone who has done the same, you are setting yourself up for a successful start.
I simply follow the things that bring me joy, take care of myself, invest in myself while I send my love into the world. When the time comes someone special will come into my life and when that happens I will be ready to invest in someone else too.
So take this precious time to invest in yourself, I promise it will be the best investment you ever made.
1. Investing in yourself is not selfish
2. Self love should be a priority
3. You must love yourself before you can love others
4. Slow down, ask yourself "What do I need right now?" (Listen to your body)
5. Independence is sexy
6. Investing in yourself is worth it for long term